Chris Abdey (he/him)

Chris joined Momma on February 17, 2025 for a live Q&A via Twitch and YouTube to talk about Procrastination & Productivity

About Chris

Chris Abdey is a procrastination coach and mental wellness advocate specializing in addiction, burnout, and stress management.

Socials / Links for Guest Connection

• Website: https://www.procrastinationstation.ca

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisabdey/

• E-mail: chris@procrastinationstation.ca

References / Things Mentioned During the Stream

• Neuro-linguistic programming

• Favorite Poem - Invictus 

Episode Summary

If you’ve ever felt stuck, burned out, or frustrated with yourself for putting things off—even when you want to get them done—this episode is for you.

Key Takeaways

• Procrastination is a common issue that many people face.

• It's a misconception that procrastinators are lazy or broken.

• Society's distractions contribute significantly to procrastination.

• Understanding the psychological barriers can help in overcoming procrastination.

• Identifying personal triggers for procrastination is crucial.

• Tasks can be negotiated to make them more manageable.

• The brain treats imagined tasks similarly to completed tasks.

• Self-compassion is essential in productivity practices.

• Routines and habits can significantly enhance productivity.

• Common pitfalls include relying on cookie-cutter solutions.

• Creative excuses often mask deeper issues with procrastination.

• Mental health struggles do not equate to weakness.

In this Mental Health Monday episode, MommaFoxFire sat down with procrastination coach and mental wellness advocate Chris Abdey to talk all things procrastination, productivity and how our brains can both help and hurt us when it comes to getting stuff done. Chris brings a real and relatable perspective, sharing how his own journey from burnout and 80-hour workweeks led him to reevaluate his priorities, leave Nicaragua and eventually become a coach helping others untangle their habits.

Chris kicked things off by explaining that procrastination is way more common than most people admit... and it’s not about laziness. It’s often about fear, discomfort or feeling overwhelmed. He laid out the five procrastination personalities: the perfectionist, the worrier, the dreamer, the crisis-maker and the defier, each with their own patterns and mental roadblocks. Chris made it clear that procrastination doesn’t mean you’re broken. It usually means your brain is trying to keep you safe or comfortable, even if that means tanking your to-do list.

A standout moment came when Chris explained how our brains can confuse thinking about doing something with actually doing it. You imagine the whole project, feel good about the mental image and then your brain decides you’re done... even if you haven’t lifted a finger. He also got into how our brains flag certain tasks as “dangerous” or “draining,” and suddenly, just thinking about doing the task makes you feel exhausted. Sometimes, that’s not you needing rest. It’s your brain resisting.

MommaFoxFire shared her own relatable examples - laundry, dishes, and avoiding cold weather - all things that can sneakily trigger procrastination. Chris emphasized that figuring out the one part of a task that trips you up (like folding socks or going out in the cold) is key to working around it. Procrastination is often about one small trigger, not the whole task.

They also talked about the pressure to always be productive in today’s hustle-heavy world. Chris said a major form of procrastination he sees is around self-worth... how people will do things for others but not for themselves. That really hit home in the conversation about parents, especially moms, who put themselves last.

The solution? Self-compassion, creating routines based on what actually works for you, and learning to listen to your own energy and preferences. Chris shared simple strategies like changing your internal language (“I have to” vs. “I choose to”) and tying new habits to existing ones to build consistency.

At the end of the episode, Chris offered a free productivity session for listeners and reminded everyone: you’re not lazy, you’re not broken and you can figure this out - one step, one small win at a time.