Derek Newborn (he/him)

Derek joined Momma on November 20, 2023 live on Twitch to talk about Avoiding Narcissists (Becoming One & Getting into Relationships with One!)

About Derek

After being named one of Florida's “Top Personal Trainers”, Derek became a published fitness model. The more attention he received, the more self destructive he became in every aspect of his life. This is what led to his version of rock bottom. He attempted suicide multiple times and had become a full blown narcissist. After accepting the nightmare that he had become, instead of killing himself, he dedicated his life to killing that version of himself. He now helps victims of narcissists gain back control in their own lives through thenewbornblueprint.com. This guide was created to help men avoid the common pitfalls that can lead to extreme narcissism while teaching women how to avoid falling into relationships with narcissists. 

Derek has been a teenage father, a construction worker, a personal trainer, a fitness model, and a business owner. He's also been a liar, a cheater, a back stabber, and a narcissist. Through his trials, tribulations, and downfalls he has learned that it’s never too late to turn your life around. His ultimate goal in creating this program is to help others live every aspect of their life at the highest level, while being able to avoid the costly pitfalls of our modern society.

Socials / Links for Guest Connection

• Website - https://www.thenewbornblueprint.com/

• Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/derek.newborn

• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thenewbornblueprint/

References / Things Mentioned During the Stream

• Book Recommendation: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Episode Summary

Are you tired of toxic relationships and ready to take control of your own happiness? Tune in to hear MommaFoxFire's conversation with Derek Newborn, where you can learn practical tips for avoiding narcissists and navigating narcissism in everyday life!

In this episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart, MommaFoxFire interviewed Derek Newborn on the topic of Avoiding Narcissists & Narcissism. Throughout the conversation, they explored various aspects of narcissism, self-awareness, and personal growth, providing valuable insights and practical advice for listeners.

Key Takeaways:

• Unhealed trauma can contribute to narcissistic behavior.

• Healthy confidence is when a person's actions align with their words.

• Red flags of narcissistic behavior include inconsistent behavior, playing the victim, and love bombing.

• Pitfalls to avoid include seeking immediate satisfaction and lacking a sense of purpose in life.

• Having a purpose in life and taking ownership of one's actions can help prevent narcissistic tendencies. Men and women can both exhibit narcissistic behavior, but societal expectations may influence how they express it.

• Warning signs of narcissism include a growing lack of empathy, disregard for others' feelings, and a shift in behavior towards taking less responsibility.

• Intervention for narcissism can occur through therapy, either from a supportive standpoint or through rock bottom experiences.

• To avoid relationships with narcissists, it is important to build a healthy connection with oneself, set standards and boundaries, and be aware of red flags.

• Self-reflection and self-awareness are crucial for personal growth and overcoming difficult circumstances.

• Forgiveness, both of others and oneself, is an important step in detaching from past hurts and moving forward.

• The belief that 'once a narcissist, always a narcissist' is a misconception, as people have the ability to change and grow.

One of the key points discussed was the connection between unhealed trauma and narcissistic behavior. Derek emphasized how unresolved trauma can contribute to narcissistic tendencies, highlighting the importance of addressing past wounds to prevent such behavior.

They also explored the difference between healthy confidence and narcissism. Healthy confidence, according to Derek, is when a person's actions align with their words. In contrast, narcissistic behavior often involves inconsistent actions, playing the victim, and love bombing as red flags.

To avoid falling into relationships with narcissists, MommaFoxFire and Derek stressed the significance of building a healthy connection with yourself. Setting standards and boundaries, being aware of red flags, and practicing self-reflection were identified as crucial steps in protecting yourself from toxic relationships.

Throughout the discussion, they acknowledged that both men and women can exhibit narcissistic behavior, but societal expectations may influence how they express it. They highlighted warning signs of narcissism, such as a growing lack of empathy, disregard for others' feelings, and a shift towards taking less responsibility.

Intervention for narcissism can occur through therapy, either from a supportive standpoint or through experiencing rock bottom moments. Derek shared his own experience, noting that intervention would have been more effective if initiated from a supportive perspective.

Forgiveness emerged as a significant theme in overcoming narcissism and healing from past hurts. Both forgiving others and yourself were identified as crucial steps in detaching from past traumas and moving forward towards personal growth.

The conversation concluded with a debunking of the misconception that "once a narcissist, always a narcissist." MommaFoxFire and Derek emphasized that people have the capacity to change and grow, highlighting the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and fostering a sense of purpose in life.

Overall, this conversation provided listeners with valuable insights into recognizing narcissistic behavior, setting boundaries, and fostering personal growth. MommaFoxFire and Derek's candid discussion offered practical advice for navigating relationships and overcoming narcissism, making it a valuable resource for anyone seeking to improve their mental well-being.