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Patty Cabot (she/her)
Patty joined Momma on October 16, 2023 live on Twitch to talk about The Intersection of Eating Disorders & Sexual Abuse
About Patty
Beginning in her teens, Patty battled drastic weight fluctuations of 50 to 75 pounds. Desperate to break the cycle and thinking it was what prevented her from meeting men, in her late 30s Patty embarked on a therapeutic journey that led to her unresolved childhood sexual abuse. Despite Patty’s great shame and reluctance to delve into the pain of her past, it became clear that her weight was merely a symptom of the abuse. Over 12 years she worked with her therapist and EMDR, a chiropractor to release trapped “fight or flight” responses, a sex therapist and attended group therapy for sexual abuse. Patty has maintained an approximately 100-pound weight loss for the past 15 years. She is publishing Not That Girl Anymore, a memoir about the alternative therapies she explored in the hopes of undoing the ruin within to claim the happiness she – and everyone else struggling with trauma – deserves.
Socials / Links for Guest Connection
Website - https://www.pattycabot.com/
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@pattycabot
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/patty.cabot/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063599580134
References / Things Mentioned During the Stream
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Favorite Poems: Annabel Lee by Edgar Allen Poe, Sappho 1 and Sappho 2
Binge-worthy TV shows: The Walking Dead, Special Ops: Lioness, The Last Of Us, Defiance
Book Recommendation: A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman
Two Poems by Sappho
Pain penetrates
Me drop
by drop
If you are squeamish
Don't prod the
beach rubble.
Annabel Lee
by Edgar Allen Poe
It was many and many a year ago,
In a kingdom by the sea,
That a maiden there lived whom you may know
By the name of Annabel Lee;
And this maiden she lived with no other thought
Than to love and be loved by me.
I was a child and she was a child,
In this kingdom by the sea,
But we loved with a love that was more than love—
I and my Annabel Lee—
With a love that the wingèd seraphs of Heaven
Coveted her and me.
And this was the reason that, long ago,
In this kingdom by the sea,
A wind blew out of a cloud, chilling
My beautiful Annabel Lee;
So that her highborn kinsmen came
And bore her away from me,
To shut her up in a sepulchre
In this kingdom by the sea.
The angels, not half so happy in Heaven,
Went envying her and me—
Yes!—that was the reason (as all men know,
In this kingdom by the sea)
That the wind came out of the cloud by night,
Chilling and killing my Annabel Lee.
But our love it was stronger by far than the love
Of those who were older than we—
Of many far wiser than we—
And neither the angels in Heaven above
Nor the demons down under the sea
Can ever dissever my soul from the soul
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
For the moon never beams, without bringing me dreams
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And the stars never rise, but I feel the bright eyes
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And so, all the night-tide, I lie down by the side
Of my darling—my darling—my life and my bride,
In her sepulchre there by the sea—
In her tomb by the sounding sea.