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Patty Cabot (she/her)

Patty joined Momma on October 16, 2023 live on Twitch to talk about The Intersection of Eating Disorders & Sexual Abuse

About Patty

Beginning in her teens, Patty battled drastic weight fluctuations of 50 to 75 pounds. Desperate to break the cycle and thinking it was what prevented her from meeting men, in her late 30s Patty embarked on a therapeutic journey that led to her unresolved childhood sexual abuse. Despite Patty’s great shame and reluctance to delve into the pain of her past, it became clear that her weight was merely a symptom of the abuse. Over 12 years she worked with her therapist and EMDR, a chiropractor to release trapped “fight or flight” responses, a sex therapist and attended group therapy for sexual abuse. Patty has maintained an approximately 100-pound weight loss for the past 15 years. She is publishing Not That Girl Anymore, a memoir about the alternative therapies she explored in the hopes of undoing the ruin within to claim the happiness she – and everyone else struggling with trauma – deserves.

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Episode Summary

MommaFoxFire hosted Patty Cabot to delve into the intersection of eating disorders and sexual abuse. There exists a significant correlation between eating disorders and childhood sexual abuse, with binge eating disorder being particularly prevalent. While anorexia and bulimia have historically received more attention, binge eating disorder is now recognized as a legitimate eating disorder that warrants equal consideration.

The discussion highlighted the diverse ways in which eating disorders and mental illnesses manifest within the context of childhood sexual abuse. There remains a glaring lack of research and support for survivors grappling with these intersecting issues. This gap underscores the importance of raising awareness and advocating for more comprehensive support systems for survivors.

The conversation also explored various therapeutic approaches to addressing the emotional and physical aspects of trauma. Both Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy and chiropractic care were highlighted as beneficial modalities in aiding survivors on their healing journey.

Group therapy emerged as a crucial resource, offering a sense of community and understanding for survivors of sexual abuse and eating disorders. Finding solace and shared experiences among peers can be immensely validating and empowering for individuals navigating complex traumas.

Throughout the discussion, the importance of resilience and patience in the healing process was emphasized. Healing is a journey marked by milestones and setbacks, and progress takes time and perseverance. Seeking support from trusted individuals and resources was underscored as instrumental in fostering recovery and growth.

Sharing one's story emerged as a powerful tool for both personal healing and inspiring others who may be grappling with similar traumas. By destigmatizing conversations around mental health and trauma, folks like Patty Cabot contribute to creating a more supportive and understanding environment for survivors.

The interview aimed to dispel the misconception that mental illness and trauma are the individual's fault. By challenging this harmful narrative, the conversation sought to promote empathy, understanding, and validation for survivors, affirming that healing is possible and deserving of support.

Overall, the interview provided a comprehensive exploration of the intersection of eating disorders and sexual abuse, offering insights, resources, and hope for both survivors and allies in the mental health community.

Two Poems by Sappho

Pain penetrates

Me drop

by drop

If you are squeamish

Don't prod the

beach rubble.

Annabel Lee

by Edgar Allen Poe

It was many and many a year ago,

In a kingdom by the sea,

That a maiden there lived whom you may know

By the name of Annabel Lee;

And this maiden she lived with no other thought

Than to love and be loved by me.

I was a child and she was a child,

In this kingdom by the sea,

But we loved with a love that was more than love—

I and my Annabel Lee—

With a love that the wingèd seraphs of Heaven

Coveted her and me.

And this was the reason that, long ago,

In this kingdom by the sea,

A wind blew out of a cloud, chilling

My beautiful Annabel Lee;

So that her highborn kinsmen came

And bore her away from me,

To shut her up in a sepulchre

In this kingdom by the sea.

The angels, not half so happy in Heaven,

Went envying her and me—

Yes!—that was the reason (as all men know,

In this kingdom by the sea)

That the wind came out of the cloud by night,

Chilling and killing my Annabel Lee.

But our love it was stronger by far than the love

Of those who were older than we—

Of many far wiser than we—

And neither the angels in Heaven above

Nor the demons down under the sea

Can ever dissever my soul from the soul

Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

For the moon never beams, without bringing me dreams

Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

And the stars never rise, but I feel the bright eyes

Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

And so, all the night-tide, I lie down by the side

Of my darling—my darling—my life and my bride,

In her sepulchre there by the sea—

In her tomb by the sounding sea.